Communication Principles
How you see yourself can make a great difference in how you communicate. " Every individual exists in
a continually changing world of experience of which he( or she) is the center". Many communication
scholars and social scientists believe that people are products of how others treat them and of the messages others send them. But every day we experience the centrality of ourselves in communication. A student, for
instance, may describe a
conflict with a teacher as unfair treatment: "I know my teacher doesn't like the fact that I don't agree with
his opinions , and that is why he gave me such a poor grade in that class. " The teacher might say the
opposite. Each person may believe that he is correct and that the other person's view is wrong.
The concept of self originates in communication. Through verbal and nonverbal symbols,a child leams
to accept roles in response to the expectations of others. You establish self-image, the sort of person you
believe you are, by how others think of you. Positive, negative,and neutral messages that you receive from
others all play a role in determining who you are. Communication itself is probably best understood as a
dialogue process. Our understanding of communication comes from our interactions with other people. In
a more obvious way,communication involves others in the sense that a competent communicator considers what the other person needs and expects when selecting messages to share. So, the communication begins with the self, as defined largely by others, and involves others , as defined largely by the self.
Communication occurs almost every minute of your life. If you are not communicating with yourself
( thinking, planning, reacting to the world around you), you are observing others and drawing inferences
from their behavior. Even if the other person did not intend a message for you, you gather observations
and draw specific conclusions. A person yawns and you believe that person is bored with your message.
A second person looks away from you and you conclude that person is not listening to you. A third person
smile ( perhaps because of a memory of a joke he heard recently) and you lieve that he is attracted to you. We are continually picking up meanings from others' behaviors and we are constantly providing behaviors
that have communicative value for them.
More often than not, you may have hurt someone accidentally and you may have tried to explain that
you did not mean that. You may have told the other person that you were sorry for your statement. You
may have made a joke out of your rude statement. Nonetheless, your comment remains both in the mind
of the other person and in your own mind. You cannot go back in time and erase your messages to others. Communication cannot be reversed(倒退) ,nor can it be repeated. When you tried to re-create the
atmosphere , the conversation , and the setting, nothing seemed right. Your second experience with a
similar setting and person made far different
results.
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| Communication begins with the self |
●People are somewhat products of others' treatment and messages.
●We are always 1 in communication with others.
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| Communication 2 others |
●Experiences of others help children learn to accept roles.
●Messages from others help you 3 who you are.
●Needs and 4 of others should be considered,
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| Communication 5 everywhere |
●We are communicating with ourselves by thinking,planning and reacting to the outside world.
●We are always 6 other people by observing even if they do not intend any message for you.
●We are constantly collecting meanings from others' 7 .
●We are constantly 8 meanings by what we do.
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| Communication cannot |
●You may explain what you have done,but you cannot 9 what remains in the other person's mind. ●You may redo the conversation,but you 10 achieve the same result. |